Ch-Ch-Changes

This week has felt like an emotional process of three weeks. There are so many things coinciding and moving in a direction at the same time. Decisions needed to be made and several paths forward have finally become apparent after years! 

In my personal life, we finally figured out where my oldest will go to high school. In the days leading up to finding out, I had the most insane dreams, and it felt like I couldn’t even compartmentalize the circumstances any longer. KNOWING was taking over my mind. I was in a daze until we found out! It feels like a thousand pounds have been lifted off my shoulders, and it just feels right. 

So often people try to tap into their intuition, which is how I mostly make decisions. My husband is the quantitative one; I’m the emotional one. I have strong feelings based on my strong spiritual life, prayer, and what I hear from God. That doesn’t necessarily mean that only one path will be blessed. Sometimes, we get caught up in only one right decision, and that’s not always the case. But often, one decision will give us the most peace. I won’t get into the weeds on this personal decision, but I will share more about a business decision we worked through this week.

I’ll preface this story by saying that I used not to be able to sit through business meetings without sweating and crying. Everything felt too overwhelming, and honestly, hearing anything I was doing wrong was painful. As a recovering enneagram three, I have never grown accustomed to failing at anything. I would sob like a baby whenever my team lost, fighting like hell to ensure that never happened again. I enjoy my kids not being overly emotional about their wins and losses because I couldn’t even sleep if my team lost. I’m glad that most of them don’t have my temperament! So, when I sit in business meetings geared toward future success, it automatically feels like I’m failing at what I’m currently doing. 

A few years ago, I hired a business consultant to help run my business, and it required me to delegate most of what I was doing to manage the growth. It was so hard to give that up because it felt like “by having others do the work, I couldn't handle it.” Which isn’t the case at all! 

More recently, we hired a marketing consultant to help us examine what’s working well and what’s not. Like it or not, not everyone finds me because I’m “me.” 😉 We have to work to find people who are a good fit for our community! She let us know our subscription model wasn’t sustainable, and we needed to recreate that, specifically our onboarding and most of the user experience. I held in my tears, and after the call, I had a big release from everything I was doing wrong. She also told me I needed financial goals! I was like, no, I don’t. I don’t mind setting a goal for the number of people I’d like to work with, but financial goals aren’t my cup of tea… it makes me feel like everything I’m doing can be calculated, and it just can’t. But I took her advice on everything else, and guess what… I survived. 

Since then, I’ve worked hard to overcome my performance nature. I’m grateful for my hard work ethic, but it’s been a lot of work to shift my perspective on WHO I AM and what I’m capable of. 

In the last few years, I’ve been able to focus my decision-making on what feels right emotionally combined with what makes sense on paper, and I never cry at business meetings anymore. What I teach on regulating the nervous system has also worked wonders for me. So, long story long, we have come up with a really good plan for the next 12 months, and I’m so excited to reveal some of it along the way! Our membership has been so successful and fulfilling for me that we will continue to pursue evolving it! But with so much effort going into the membership, we have decided to cut out one of the annual challenges. We will share more info on this as the time comes. 

What am I saying here? Regulating the nervous system helps in the decision-making process, and we have some changes coming to CCN.

Thank YOU for being here! It truly is my JOY to serve this community!